Every single of us knows something about the families. We are all someone’s child, therefore has experienced parenting. And also many of us are a parent and have our children. The position of the parent is the highest in the world, as it is the one place in which we learn and exercise the greatest unselfishness. But as a human being, we are all familiar with expectations. Expectations laid on us to succeed in life, expectations at work-not to fail, the expectations for parents- eat healthy food, prepare our children healthy meals every day, read books at night and excel at the work at the same time. And therefore, the expectation which is filled with thoughts, hopes, duties and tasks behave like a raindrop getting bigger bigger and even bigger before it falls. And then what do we do? Without noticing we transfer all the expectations that we have on our children. The paradox is that more than anything in our lives we want our children to be happy. We fear judgement, we fear disappointment, we fear failure so on and so forth that it becomes a constant matter to be worried and stressed as parents. Today, we expect a kindergarten student to do what the students of standard five or six do at their age. A neuroscientist has also found that chronic stress triggers long-term changes in brain structure and function. Children who are exposed to chronic stress are prone to mental problems such as anxiety, depression and mood disorders later in life. The most important thing that parents should ask themselves what kind of memories do we want for our children- at home, schools, everywhere. Is our parenting founded on our kindness and generosity? Or is our parenting founded on criticism and hostility? Kindness makes our children feel loved not the degrees we hold, not the number of after school activities we take them to every day or home-works we check. A child needs a stable pleasant atmosphere to grow, to create a joyful and loving atmosphere. Of course, there will be somebody else on the street who’ll be trying to do something else with them. Those influences are always there, one should not protect them entirely from those things because someday they have to go out. Children don’t need a stress free life. Moderate or good stress such as studying hard and learning new skills build a more resilient brain. And if the question of children being lazy comes then the fact is a human being is born creative and curious. We all have seen babies who never give up on walking. No matter how many times they fall, they get up as many times as needed. They do so because they don’t fear failure. We grown-ups impose our meaning of failure to our five-year-old child. We must allow themselves to enjoy their carelessness of life. Hug your child, smile, bite your tongue if you are mistaken. Even, it's okay if we come back late from work, it's okay to be frustrated, being tired, angry, it may rain if we plan for an outing and they’ll understand. But what we must be concern about is what do we want our daughters and sons to remember after ten or twenty years. Teach your children to ride a bicycle, to giggle if they cook some food and it get spoil, have difficult conversations, laugh today if you have gotten angry yesterday, teach values and teach that its okay if they don’t have plans for life, plans will evolve, whisper “I love you” more often than you think you should. I would like to end up with the timeless words of wisdom by the prophet Kahil Gibran on children, “ Your children are not your children They are the sons and daughter of life longing for itself. They come through you, not from you. And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.”